So, when you’re sick of hanging out all by yourself it’s time to get some new friends!

Find new friends approach:

  • Go somewhere you are sure to meet other travelers: like the hostel’s common room or bar. It’s a safe one!
  • Join a tour, pub-crawl or an excursion, there you are sure to meet others traveling alone. The wasted cheerful crowds I frequently meet on the subway in Berlin give me the impression that foreigners  are always happy to hook up with you become your friend.
  • Bring a good book and go to a café to have people around you, maybe you meet a potential date.  I tend to just get approached by weirdos (note to self: do not read “The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy” in public), but I’m not giving up hope that it someday will be a success (maybe with a cool local magazine in a language I can’t understand).
  • Go to a pub and have a glimpse at people, after a couple of drinks it gets easier to find your new best friends. After years of careful observations my hypothesis is that the number of drinks needed to get chatty increases the further north you come (Scandinavian first-hand experience).
  • Find an interesting event or a party to go to, for some party tips check out: voulez-vous party avec moi?
  • Make a shout out on Facebook, Twitter, Skype or Msn – maybe some of your friends have some good advice on where you should go or know some friends to hook you up with. Works for me!
  • Check out online communities to figure out who’s travelling in the same area as you. You might even find locals, who would like to have a coffee or a drink. Take a look at Travelettes, Couchsurfing, Travellerspoint, Virtualtourist or Travelblog.

Whether go for the rescue yourself alone approach or the find new friends approach: You’ll soon forget where the loneliness came from. Thank you Facebook and Caipirinha for never letting me down!



Kathrine Opshaug Bakke Kathrine Opshaug Bakke, editor at Travelettes from 2009 to 2013, wrote this post. Originating from Norway, she has been living in Berlin, Lisbon, and Stockholm the past 6 years.

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