There’s something about autumn that always draws my attention to the important issues that I was busy pushing away during summer. Future stuff, head and heart stuff, “priority” stuff. So as I was sitting in a Kreuzberg cafe last Sunday (it was raining of course), I started scribbling a couple of questions that I would set out to find answers for this season. Some of them will ultimately provoke a reaction or at least a faint idea that it’s time to think differently. If all of that sounds a little abstract, I suggest you jump right in and try and be inspired. This is not about self-optimization or “making the most of your time on earth”, just a little reminder to love yourself and perhaps look at things from a slightly different perspective. 

When was the last time you spoke with your parents?

Could it maybe be time to declutter your closet, your schedule and perhaps most importantly, your head from things that drag you down?

Are you kind enough to yourself?


Do you speak up when someone around you is being sexist/racist/a dick?

Do you do so with your head up?

Are you surrounded by people who inspire you to dream or do they weigh you down?


Do you tell them how much they mean to you often enough?

Have you thrown a party for absolutely no reason this year yet?

What calls have you been avoiding recently and when would be a better time to make them than now?


Do you sleep enough?

Do you consciously take time to be grateful for the life you’re living even if it feels like there’s little to be grateful about at the moment?

Can you sit still for two hours?

Have you tried writing your thoughts down right after?


What do you love most about yourself?

When was the last time you tried something new?

And when did you allow yourself to fail spectacularly at something without feeling frustrated?

Have you tried dancing naked to your favourite band as a teenager when feeling blue?