“If I received a nickel every time I saw someone as beautiful as you, I would have five cents,” – kind of overflowing praise coming from an exotic Prince Charming, can make any traveler stop in her tracks. After all, the lad has just made one very logical and well-founded argument. However, after a few minutes of chemistry-radiating interaction, you might notice that your wallet has mysteriously vanished. And shortly afterwards, so has the royalty.

This kind of robbery for the sake of credulous heart, permanently lost luggage or some sort of other travel disaster serve as examples of unforgettable events, especially when experienced far away from home. Sadly, a month-long diarrhea can also be added to the list, suffered but somehow survived by yours truly.

When one or several of these unplanned incidents arise, it’s not so easy to see the silver lining of traveling. You just want to go back home. By the same token, what makes most “unsuccessful trips” disastrous, is the beforehand prepared image of how things should happen, long before the events were even about to present themselves. Well-anticipated expectations sometimes forego any gratefulness of the current, no matter what the circumstances may be. Therefore, don’t always believe in everything you visualize in advance.

While on a holiday, why expect supreme experiences, when those occur extremely rarely in ordinary life? Why expect never-ending sunshine, when there’s a 50 percent chance of rain? Nowadays people travel for various reasons, the search of having a great time is one of them. When something goes wrong on a limited timespan, entirely devoted to having fun and good vibes, the dissatisfaction emerges.

At times you can prepare a trip extremely well, triple-check your protection in the case of various conditions and pay extra on all kinds of weird insurances, but the holiday still manages to suck. At those unlucky times, concerned misfortunes are advisable to try to be seen as a couple of drastically disliked zits. You can do everything to prevent the bumps to sprout, but the rotting bastards make their way into your frontal masterpiece nevertheless. Even though those tiny devils might leave scars and ruin your porcelain skin, the marks will eventually fade. They are not tattoos.

From beyond hazardous adventures, you learn how to handle accidents, mysterious sicknesses and injustice. One day in retrospect, all the unfortunate trips will be coated by the realization that you were brave enough to fly out in the first place, against the risk of misadventure. Similarly, fruitful journeys aren’t made of constant voyages into sunsets. Perpetual travel success doesn’t rely on sunny weather, superb quality accommodation or instant access to white sandy beaches -even though those often help. If traveling would be all about frozen, luscious cocktails in paradise, sooner or later they wouldn’t taste so damn delicious.

For this reason, the key to continual travel success could simply lie in the habitual attitude of gratitude. Positive outcomes from unexpected incidents rarely require sweating buckets, but it’s virtually mandatory to have an affirmative frame of mind. A change to around-the-clock positive attitude makes a substantial difference to your upcoming wanderings.

A thankful state of mind enjoys the shining, but also the every now and then stinking present. In essence, whatever situation you find yourself in should not have the power to shape the mood of your adventures, only your reactions can do that. While sailing, directing wind is not your duty, fixing the sail is. For everything you might loose, you will get something in return. Repent or revel, the choice is yours.

Hence, ongoing and positive travels don’t include grumbling, heavy hearts. The ones that are able to travel for pleasure and personal growth are too fortunate not to show off their dimples. With this in mind, let the suitcase-life bring on all of its hardships, and see how long it takes for you to realize that no amount of bullshit can wipe that dazzling smile out of your face.

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rita lahtinenAt the fresh age of 15, Rita packed her bags and started exploring the world. 10 years and more than 50 countries later, she is still on the road. Originally from Finland, she is currently based in Copenhagen and San Diego. A few years ago, Rita decided to take a break from social media and focus on exactly where she was and with whom she was at the given moment. During those years, she focused on shooting film and wrote a novel about traveling as a young girl. Her latest project, traveldelic, is about 365 things travel has taught her so far. Please feel free to share your thoughts with her here. Find her on Instagram @traveldelic.