15 Things to Pack on the Trip to Loving Yourself
Whether you live in London, New York or Cape Town, you are constantly progressing on your life’s journey. We are all unique and have various trails in life. No matter how many continents you cross and difficulties you will overcome, the biggest and most important voyage is the one learning how to love yourself.
Does loving yourself mean drinking daily smoothies or spending Saturday nights with chocolate and chips without a guilt trip? Does it mean regular exercise, getting an education or traveling on your own? Does it mean stepping away from relationships that no longer serve you or creating new, inspiring ones?
To me, loving oneself means all of those things. To you it may mean the same things, but probably doesn’t. No journey is the same. Loving yourself is all about listening to your intuition, and trying to figure out what your body is trying to tell you. That, in its simplicity, can be a very hard task to fulfill. Just imagine how many industries would go out of business if people, especially women, actually would. The most terrifying trip of my life is the one inside my incredulous mind. Here are 15 sentences that gave me the courage to start walking on this bumpy road to self-confidence, without a return ticket or any intentions to go back.
In your life, you don’t have to travel across the Atlantic to find love. You only need to travel 6 inches. That is the distance from your heart to your mind. -Bikram Choudhury
Be brave enough to do the things you really want to do. People actually dig the fact that you enjoy what you do. If you want to become a photographer, start taking pictures. If you want to travel, save money and go. If you want to find love, find it from yourself. Make sure you do things for you, not for someone else.
2. APPRECIATION OF INDIVIDUALITY
Learn to love your imperfection. Your life isn’t a status update. You don’t need a six-pack, bikini bridge or thigh gap; you need to delete your Instagram and shut down your TV. Embrace your individuality and screw society. True beauty is not on the surface – it’s confidence, character and charisma.
One step at the time. It doesn’t matter whether we are talking about your next journey, extra pound or goal, always just focus on one thing at the time. Rome wasn’t built in a day, right? Constructing Sagrada Familia isn’t even finished yet! Trust the process, enjoy the ride. Little by little.
Expect nothing, appreciate everything. Do what you do and be who you want to be. Don’t put your trust on the system or others. Put it on yourself.
5. A STRICT NO TO AVOCADOS
Stop waiting for the perfect moment to begin. Tomorrow, Friday and the next Summer will come, in time. You are not an avocado; only enjoyable when fully ready. Start loving yourself now.
6. CONFIDENCE TO STRUGGLE
Without struggles, there’s no progress. Choose to handle the unexpected hardships with humor, assertiveness and grace. ‘The flower that blooms in adversity is the rarest and most beautiful of all.’ -Mulan
7. AIM TO FAIL WITH CLASS
Learn to enjoy occasional failing as much as succeeding. Mistakes only mean that you are trying. Sometimes you just want to have a glass of champagne instead of Crossfit training or squats. And when you do, do it with class. Have two.
8. A DICTIONARY THAT DOESN’T INCLUDE THE WORD SETTLE
Loving yourself is the biggest superhero act that you can do. Why would you settle to be Robin of your own life, when you are supposed to be Batman?
9. BOLDNESS AND MODESTY
Have the guts to say YES and a kick ass way to answer NO. Often all the good things come to you at the same time, and sometimes they don’t come at all. First be patient, then be humble.
10. CAPACITY TO THINK OUTSIDE OF THE BOX
No-no for excuses. It’s never too late. You are never too old. One of my clients started doing yoga last year, and she’s 76 years old. Her goal is to do a split before she turns 80. My former landlord did a round-the-world trip at the age of 67. There’s still time to change the road that you are on.
11. PREPARE TO CUT OUT
Give up and let go of. One of the hardest things in life is to let go of something that you thought that would be beside you for the rest of your life. Let go of what you can’t control, give up the relationships and environment that bring drama and negativity into your life. Everyone that can’t see your awesomeness can kiss your fabulous butt!
12. PRIDE TO WALK HEAD HIGH
Always feel like you’re wearing an invisible crown, heels and the most courageous outfit from your closet. Be proud of your crooked nose, be proud of your mistakes, and carry them all with a smile. Don’t wait till you reach your goal to be proud, make every step of your trip legendary.
13. A CHILLED WAY TO DO STUFF
Don’t force it. The most important thing is to love, but sometimes it just doesn’t come out naturally, particularly on Mondays. Love is like a fart – if you have to force it, it’s probably crap. So don’t.
14. ABILITY TO GIVE AND RECEIVE
Be kind and grateful. The way you treat yourself sets a standard to others. If you would treat your loved ones the same way you treat your mind, you would be the one that gets picked up last on the gym class. Be as grateful of your scars and broken bones as you are of from the moments of victory. The beauty of survivors lies in rising after a lost battle, not in 24/7 glory.
Have faith in you. Realize that you can and that you will. There’s not so many things that a determined woman can’t do. And also, there are two things that will never go out of fashion. Those are dreaming and believing.
Just freaking love yourself.
Text, photos Rita Maria